Hey Hey Hey Connectors —
Ok, so you know we have been working on GAINING CLARITY about ourselves in Part 2 of the video and workbook series: “Connection Strategies for Every Relationship”.
WHY?
Without clarity on ourselves, we cannot expect to turn to another and have a more connected and easier relationship. It is our relationship with OURSELVES that leads the way to all other relationships.
HOW?
No matter how long you have been in a relationship, no matter how busy your life is, no matter how many lovely children you have demand every last second of your brain power – YOU CAN IMPROVE the RELATIONSHIP with YOU!
Take one minute a day to THINK about YOU – get your thoughts on paper or at least record them using memo notes or an app on your phone. I absolutely love the ritual shopping for a beautiful journal but you don’t need a journal to journal. It’s not about the journal, the slip of paper or the app. It is about you.
IT IS THE ACT OF HONORING YOU! What better way to honor that person we call ME than giving that part of us time, patience and air time to speak. You only need a minute a day but I can’t tell you enough: the more you turn to you, honor yourself, the more clarity you will have about you, your relationships, work, money, sex, needs, fun, dreams, hopes and what is next for you. …and you know the drill by now: the more connected and easier your relationships will be…
WHEN MY HEAD IS SCRAMBLED I get out a pen. I have had “a rough few years”. After a major break-up and tremendous loss of family and comfort, I was directionless. My identity and life was thrust into recreation mode when I had already planned how it was “suppose to be”. My business was born at the same time, I was busy…very busy and likely on purpose (see previous episode on my “ing”). It wasn’t until early this year did I learn the power of journalling. Of slowing down to get calm and honor my thoughts, feelings and needs. When times are particularly hard, I don’t leave home without my journal. MY JOURNAL (a.k.a. ME) became MY SECURITY BLANKET. I had everything I needed within me and I needed to get “it” out, see it, read it and read it again. From there, I can turn toward another with more calm and clarity.
START TODAY– grab a pen, grab an audio app to record your sweet voice and spend one minute with your fine self.
Here are some starters if you need help jump starting your thoughts:
- What I know to be true (about me, you, relationships, sex, money, family, work, fun):
- How I want to feel in my life:
- My time is best spent by:
- The future excites me because: (or! My future would excite me more if ___________ was in place/different)
- What I love about me:
- My proudest moment so far:
- Today is a blessing because:
- I am admired/love/cared for because:
- I am at my best when:
- What I would never change about my fine self:
Alright my dears, that ought to get you well on your way to more clarity…more connected and easier relationships.
If you haven’t done it already, grab part 2 of my free workbook: Connection Strategies for Every Relationship – Clarity for Connection. The exercises will help you identify your feelings that will lead you to better understand your needs. Now that’s clarity!