Emotions are the most reliable source of deciphering our needs, and each of us must be able to articulate our needs for more connection and ease. A constant stream of emotion runs throughout our days and we can get stuck in some of these emotions. Working to identify emotions and learning what they … [Read more...]
Episode 37: The Emotion Decoder Ring, Part 1
Our emotions must be honestly investigated, accurately named, and fully understood in order to embrace what we are experiencing and needing. However, we are often too limited in our words to accurately name and understand our internal emotional experience. As a result, we cannot fully understand our … [Read more...]
Nobody Taught Me How to be in a Relationship
Connection is not only essential for survival but for enrichment and pleasure, too; where there is connection there is ease. So why are we so disconnected from each other, and why are relationships so hard at times? For one thing, relationships are hard because we aren’t exactly inundated with … [Read more...]
Determining Which Relationships to Invest In
Ok, you know how I say "We are ALL just tall babies"? Let's look through that lens when we consider our safest relationships. To be safe enough to be ourselves, to speak our truth, to ask for our needs to be met, to pursue our destiny - to shout from the mountain tops about our wonderful self … [Read more...]
Hey Connectors – the mission is getting momentum
Like I predicted in my last video – I FINISHED MY FIRST BOOK! And it is alllll about YOU! In the process of getting the book done, I couldn’t help but see and feel the impact of T.A.B.S. I truly believe T.A.B.S. is in everything we do as human, whether it is in relationships with people, places … [Read more...]
Pull Up a Chair and Take a Load Off
The Relationship Table. It's a place we “go” to sort out issues, make requests and create change in relationships. It can literally be a table but it is more about the feel of a conversation. The Relationship Table should feel safe and open as both parties are willing to create change. The … [Read more...]
10 Questions for Your Annual Relationship Review
Picture it: nice dinner, your favorite meal, you wore that extra special something, maybe a little cologne to feel extra fancy. It is your anniversary – you have been in this relationship for a year, a decade, 25 years or 25 days (why not? Celebrate it all). You have someone really important sitting … [Read more...]
Determine How Engaged your Partner is in the Relationship
Hey Connecters! Engagement – not the “put a ring on it” kind, I am talking about the E of “A.R.R.E. You There for Me?”. Engagement is a pillar of connected and easier relationships. It is what helps us Tall Babies feel another has our back and is there for us. The key is engaging in what is … [Read more...]
He’s a Turtle and You Need an Eager Puppy
Responsiveness. Some are helicopters… Some are turtles… Some appear to be asleep… Some are little, eager puppies… Some are juuuust right. How responsive is your partner? How responsive are you? How is it working for you? … [Read more...]
We are all just Tall Babies!
“We are all just Tall Babies!” I say this to all the couples I work with and it makes sense to them when we look at the “stuff” we are all seeking in relationships. Picture it: we were all born from some woman’s body way back in the day. We likely came into this world and it was bright, cold … [Read more...]