Slowing down is an essential step in writing your own rules to live by. Chapter 3 “Slow and Calm Wins the Race” provides you the permission and the “why” behind slowing down to move ahead. Typically, my clients begin our work together remarking, “Something just isn’t right, I can’t do it like … [Read more...]
Stop Following Those Rules
When we follow rules not intended for us we can be left drained, distracted from ourselves, disconnected and ill-at-ease. Isn’t there enough out there leaving us in those spots — we must STOP doing the same to ourselves. There are a vast number of rules and expectations we follow that influence … [Read more...]
Nobody Taught Me How to be in a Relationship
Connection is not only essential for survival but for enrichment and pleasure, too; where there is connection there is ease. So why are we so disconnected from each other, and why are relationships so hard at times? For one thing, relationships are hard because we aren’t exactly inundated with … [Read more...]
Hey Connectors – the mission is getting momentum
Like I predicted in my last video – I FINISHED MY FIRST BOOK! And it is alllll about YOU! In the process of getting the book done, I couldn’t help but see and feel the impact of T.A.B.S. I truly believe T.A.B.S. is in everything we do as human, whether it is in relationships with people, places … [Read more...]
Pull Up a Chair and Take a Load Off
The Relationship Table. It's a place we “go” to sort out issues, make requests and create change in relationships. It can literally be a table but it is more about the feel of a conversation. The Relationship Table should feel safe and open as both parties are willing to create change. The … [Read more...]
10 Questions for Your Annual Relationship Review
Picture it: nice dinner, your favorite meal, you wore that extra special something, maybe a little cologne to feel extra fancy. It is your anniversary – you have been in this relationship for a year, a decade, 25 years or 25 days (why not? Celebrate it all). You have someone really important sitting … [Read more...]
Determine How Engaged your Partner is in the Relationship
Hey Connecters! Engagement – not the “put a ring on it” kind, I am talking about the E of “A.R.R.E. You There for Me?”. Engagement is a pillar of connected and easier relationships. It is what helps us Tall Babies feel another has our back and is there for us. The key is engaging in what is … [Read more...]
He’s a Turtle and You Need an Eager Puppy
Responsiveness. Some are helicopters… Some are turtles… Some appear to be asleep… Some are little, eager puppies… Some are juuuust right. How responsive is your partner? How responsive are you? How is it working for you? … [Read more...]
We are all just Tall Babies!
“We are all just Tall Babies!” I say this to all the couples I work with and it makes sense to them when we look at the “stuff” we are all seeking in relationships. Picture it: we were all born from some woman’s body way back in the day. We likely came into this world and it was bright, cold … [Read more...]
A.R.R.E. You Reliable?
Let's expand on the previous Episode 20: "A" is for Accessible and look at Reliability. Check out the video in this post and answer the 2 true and false questions regarding reliability. For any "false" responses rate the distress related to that question on a 1 to 10 scale, 1 is little distress … [Read more...]